I would like to think I’m really, really non-judgemental… but every now and then, I fall into the trap of looking at someone and find myself judging them.
And I’m sure you have, too.
The one scenario I’m really bad about is at the grocery store. My grocery cart is always filled with lots of fresh fruits and vegetables and minimal processed foods. When I place my groceries on the belt at the cashier, I find it super easy to look at the contents of other people’s purchases and look at them and be like “no wonder they look like that”… and it’s often not in the positive way.
Oh, my gawd, I feel so terrible admitting that! It’s so… mean!
Though I haven’t done/thought that in a long time, I was reminded of that today when it happened again…. or similar.
It was Friday afternoon and I didn’t feel like going to yoga… it’s not my favorite class and the weather was nice and I wanted to go for a run. I had a 5km route plotted out and I went for it. It was hard, it sucked – both because of dealing with traffic and construction, and the fact that it was my first longer run in a while, so I struggled. I did it – 45 minutes, but I walked a bit, I had to stop because of needing to cross the street… and, of course, stopping to take pics!
After I got back, stretched, and had a shower, I went to Subway for lunch – as I was super disorganized this morning and completely forgot to pack a lunch! As I ordered and waited to add the veggies, I couldn’t help but notice what the woman ahead of me had ordered.
As I was waiting for my turn, I watched as the “sandwich artist” counted out six strips of bacon.
…. six strips….
I couldn’t help but wonder if she was on the keto diet… but then remembered she was having a wrap and the wrap is a no-go for keto.
Six strips of bacon…
Now maybe it was the vegan in me, but I couldn’t help but think “ugh… yuck”… but even when I ate meat, I loved bacon – but SIX strips? I could feel my arteries hardening just thinking about it! And the amount of creamy sauce she had them put on made me want to gag.
…and then I looked at her… and had a not nice thought about her physical body.
When she got to the cashier I had to laugh to myself when she ordered a diet Pepsi! (It’s all about balance, right?)
I felt TERRIBLE thinking what I did about this woman I didn’t know and I don’t admit this lightly… however, it’s also important to show how easy it is to have thoughts slip into a destructive state. Those thoughts were unjustified (no matter my opinion of what she was eating) and unkind. They go against everything I believe and preach.
And who am I to talk? My shitty eating habits are done in secrecy… though they’re getting better. Made me feel like a hypocrite!
It is easy to judge people without even realizing it… but the important thing is to acknowledge those thoughts immediately. Being judgemental is a hurtful, mean trait – one I try really hard to avoid! But I’m human. Things happen. I make mistakes. I slip up.
However, I also have the ability to say “no!”, “that’s not right”, “that is hurtful”, “you have no right to judge”… and reverse those thoughts.
The important thing is to know that those thoughts happen; it doesn’t make you a bad person, but it’s important to not make those thoughts a habit because your thought direction is a habit… the more judgemental your thoughts are, the more judgemental you’ll be. Just as the more grateful you are, the more things you’ll see to be grateful for. And the more positive you are, the more positivity will be attracted to you.
You control the quality of your thoughts – manifest what you want in your life.