So you want to make a change… that’s great! I can only hope that you want to change for YOU – and no outside influence. I know – that’s hard. We’ve influenced every single moment of every single day. It’s hard to go through the day without being inundated (whether you realize it or not!) with advertisements from radio, TV, billboards, bus signage, storefronts, social media… everywhere you turn, there’s something somehow influencing your day.
However, if you want to change your habits for ones that will serve you better, then that’s fantastic! Just remember, making changes out of love will last longer than changes made out of hate or disgust. Instead of thinking “OMG, I’m so disgusting! I’m so fat I need to lose some weight!”, change your mindset to “My body has been through so much and has never given up on me, it’s time I start taking care of it!”
Taking care of the mind is, singly the most important thing you can do in any aspect of your life as your mind dictates the course, speed, and attitude of your existence. To be able to have a strong mental fortitude will allow you to conquer any hurdle! Unfortunately, mental wellness is also the hardest thing to accomplish.
Discussing mental health is becoming more and more common. People are finally understanding that taking care of the mind affects all areas of their life. If you THINK you’re not good enough, you’ll fail. If you THINK you’re no good, or fat, or ugly, you will continue destructive behavior that reinforces those beliefs.
It sucks and it’s hard, but in order to succeed in anything in your life, you need to change your script. Now, you might be thinking “yeah, but I’m NOT beautiful” and that may or may not be true (hell, I don’t consider myself beautiful, but others do!) however, setting “beauty” aside, you ARE worthy of happiness. You ARE worthy of feeling love. You ARE worthy to succeed in areas of your life that you feel are important. You are WORTHY to have a body that makes you feel good.
And I don’t know about you, but eating food that makes me feel like shit is not the way to get there!
To get something you’ve never had, you need to do something you’ve never done. Trust me, as someone who has tried every type of diet and eating modality, none of it has stuck, and none of it has worked. So in order to get where I want to be, I need to do something I’ve never done….
And that radical idea? Not dieting. *gasp*
So here’s what we’re going to do…. Notice how I said “we”?…. 1 month. 1 month to make 1 change… okay, two changes. And I’m not even talking about major change – like cutting out all junk food, eating organic, hitting the gym 5 days a week, train for a marathon, starting meditation, yoga, and only drinking water collected from the glacial ponds of Tibet by virgins by the light of the full moon. I’m talking about little changes that, over time, make big results. So for this first month? Adding one healthy habit, and removing 1 destructive habit.
Month 1 healthy habit: Water. Drink 0.5oz of water for every 1 lb of body weight. For instance, I weigh about 210 lbs… at least I did the last time I weighed myself and since I don’t step on the scale often, I’m just using that number. So 105 ounces of water = about 3 liters of water. So every day, I’m going to aim for 3 liters of water. I can tell you, the days I get 3+ liters of water, I have very few cravings.
Month 1 destructive habit: Alcohol. Cut back on your alcohol consumption. I haven’t had alcohol in just over 8 months and you know what? I do NOT miss it at all! Now, I’m not saying to cut out completely, but just cut back. Do you have a couple of glasses of wine every day? Cut it back to just 1 glass a day (and don’t compensate with one of those glasses that holds ½ L of wine!). Do you drink 2 nights a week? Cut it down to a single night. I have found that drinking alcohol habitually results in binge eating on unhealthy foods – or even eating too much of healthy foods! Too much of a good thing is still bad! Don’t drink alcohol? Take a look at what you DO drink: pop, fruit juice, etc. It is VERY east to drink several hundred calories and you don’t even think about it. And don’t kid yourself about diet pop; “zero sugar/calories” just means chemicals.
Making changes is an admirable thing to do when it’s going to make positive changes to your body and your life, but don’t obsess about it, and don’t beat yourself up if something happens and things go off track, acknowledge it, pick yourself up, and carry on. It happens to me all the time! Just take one day at a time. If you’re having a bad day where everything seems to be going wrong, then take each hour at a time. Break it down into manageable pieces.
“You can start over and over and over until the feeling of moving in the right direction is more natural to you than the feeling of giving up”~Rachel Hollis, Girl Stop Apologizing
Whatever you do, don’t give up! Whatever you do, keep on going! Did you have a bad day? That’s okay! That’s normal! You’re human! Every single day, you have a new opportunity to start fresh and make that day better than the previous!
Remember, this is your life. You have this one and single life to live… so live it! There is WAY more to life than counting calories and dieting! Don’t make “losing weight” your greatest accomplishment!